Yesterday, Andrew and I celebrated 10 years of togetherness. We've had our ups and like all normal couples, our downs. But our strong passion for each other as individuals and as one, has got us to where we are today. Happy, successful and just as much in love if not more as the first day we met 10 years ago.
Here are 10 secrets to a successful relationship!
1. Enjoy each other, simple as that! We like to
just be together. Even if it means that he joins me at the mall to just carry
my bags. We love one another’s company in any situation.
2. Marriage comes before children. Now don’t get me
wrong, this doesn’t mean we don’t love our children however husband and wife
are the root of the family. If you work, everything works. Get it? So to all
those mommy’s that put all their energy on the kids and completely forget about
their husbands, I hate to put it to you bluntly, but he’s gonna leave or go
find happiness elsewhere. Your spouse was there before the kids and will be
there when they move out.
3. Be passionate and supportive of the other person’s
personal life whether you enjoy them or not. Andrew loves hockey. He enjoys watching
it, he enjoys playing it. He sleeps, breathes, and eats it for breakfast. He
has games at 10pm, I am sitting there in the freezing cold arena cheering him
on. I love spending money, he sits back and doesn’t look at our bank account.
4. Always remember, and ladies I know this might be
difficult for you to comprehend, but you are unfortunately not always right.
Listen to one another and ‘sorry’ should not be the most difficult word you have to
say. Romance and passion may bring couples together but compromise and respect
will keep them there.
5. Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. I can’t
even begin to tell you how true this is! Don’t be grossed out when he farts and
sits there basking in his god awful stench. Men, don’t find her annoying when
she asks you which drapes are nice for the master bedroom. You married someone
from the opposite gender. That’s what life’s about!
6. Pretend you’re still dating. Go on dates, call
him for quickies, flirt with each other, text him just to say I love you. The
flame will never burn out.
7. You need to laugh together. Studies actually
show that individuals who have a strong sense of humor are less likely to
experience burnout and depression and they are more likely to enjoy life in
general – including their marriage.
8. Always remember what it is about your partner
that made you fall in love with them. Many things will change throughout the
course of your marriage but the one thing that will always remain is the reason
you fell in love in the first place.
9. I gotta say it because it’s true…have more sex. Over
time, regular sex can improve your mood, make you more patient, dam down anger,
and lead to a better more contented relationship. It’s also healthy and has all
sorts of biological and emotional benefits that should not be ignored.
10. Say ‘I Love You’ often. Anytime, anywhere,
no matter what, out of the blue…just say it!
I still find him attractive even when he makes no sense!!
Our first home.
Our first responsibility.
The couple that works out together, stays together. FYI, I'm not chubby, I was 5 months pregnant :)